Sleep

Afternoon Naps…

There is something special about taking a rest and drifting off to a peaceful place in the middle of a hot sunny afternoon. The fans were drowning out kid noises and someone turned out the light and closed the door, while mama tried to grab a few extra zzzz’s. I have been making it until mid afternoon and then my head aches and longs for sleep.

I was thankful for a do nothing day that afforded me some quiet time to retreat to my room. My sanctuary, albeit littered with kids toys and reminders that lovely little people live here, when I need some time just to step away. Even if that sleep ended in someone turning on the light and jumping on the bed just to see if I was awake (he’s 5 and I love him and we had a good snuggle).

Pain is nothing new. Having been in pain for the better part of the last 10 years with one thing or another, I can handle it, most of the time. This time, I just wish I knew what was causing the pain, the lumps, the headaches, and the fatigue. It has been a little over a month since I first went to the clinic complaining of lumps in my head and neck (on the right side only) and I don’t feel like I am very much farther ahead than when I started.

I am no closer to answers, but I have an ultrasound booked for next week. I have no idea what they do when they ultrasound your head (clue a girl in here). I have had baby belly ultrasounds before, so I assume it is similar, but that is all I have to go on. At least I don’t have to drink crazy amounts of water and hold my pee (being thankful for what I can).

At the end of August is when I go to see the ear, nose, and throat specialist. I wish it was not so far away. If I don’t get some relief soon, I might have to start being a squeaky wheel. I almost wrote squawky wheel – that might work too. If you know me at all, you know that I am good at being squeaky when I need to be. It is really hard to focus and accomplish anything when all I want to do is curl up in my room and have a nap to make the pain go away. And yes, I do have pain meds, but they wear off.

We are entering our birthday season around here which will be a wonderful distraction. Does every family have a birthday season, or just us? We start the end of July and the song goes like this – Moses, Jonah, Our anniversary, Grandpa, Auntie, Malachi, Grandma, and Cousin – finishing up on August 24th. It is a busy month. Then September, October, November are event free around here.

Another wonderful distraction will be family visiting from the US next week. We only get to see them once or twice a year and we love our time together (well, I really do, I can’t speak for them – I really hope they enjoy their visits with us). There will be 15 of us staying in our place for 5 days. Call me crazy, but I am actually very excited at having wall to wall people around here.

There is no shortage of things to be doing around here: like finishing up some client work, working on graphics for some special projects (I’m learning new skills), doing taxes (for last year, yeah, don’t shoot me), ordering homeschool curriculum (just a little behind here, come on, give me a break, I have had a headache), and the usual, daily, keeping up with a big family, kind of stuff.

Thanks for listening to me share my heart and whine just a bit. I do try to keep things positive around here, but dealing with the lumps in my head, and whatever they are, is a bit consuming for me right now and I need to be able to share those things (and how wonderfully refreshing afternoon naps are) with you.

We do appreciate your prayers.

Bedtimes Past

creating family memories

In a recent post, Crafting A Bedtime Routine That Works, I wrote about the bedtime routine with the twins. The Tadey shared a comment about her dream bedtime and how it wasn’t happening the way she would like.

I don’t want any of you to think that we haven’t and don’t have our struggles, so I will share more of our bedtime story.

Elisha is our oldest and he has autism and ADHD. For several years he would be awake until 11pm and up at 4am. Not only would he be up early, but he would be horribly demanding for food and wake up the entire house. He could not occupy himself at all. Thankfully, he has improved greatly in this area.

Now Elisha stays up late and can be a bit annoying as we are trying to get the little people to bed, but for the most part he can get himself ready for bed and isn’t too much of a bug in the morning.

Elisha has his own room. Moses, Malachi, and Zion share a room. Hosanna has her own room, but spends most of her time in our bed (we are working hard to move her to her own room again).

Moses had a rough start. As a young baby he had severe rashes all over, but mostly on his face. He would wake screaming and needed cream and medication round the clock. Moses thankfully outgrew his rashes, but still has some allergies. He is now one of my better sleepers. He gets tired early and puts himself to bed. He really needs his sleep or he gets cranky.

Malachi has always been one of my better sleepers. He has been known to just curl up somewhere and go to sleep. He really values his snuggle time with me and always tries to use that card to stay up just a wee bit longer (and I usually give in). One time we even lost him because he curled up in a pile of blankets on my bedroom floor. We looked everywhere and couldn’t find him and he was sound asleep all cozy.

When the twins were little babies they slept in the same bassinet. When they were a bit bigger they shared a crib. The the twins moved to their own cribs and from there they went to their own room.

The twins moved on to big beds much earlier than I would have liked because they managed to pull all of the stuffing out of their crib mattresses in one day during nap time.

Zion has always been a pretty good sleeper, but Hosanna has had trouble with her skin since she was a little baby. She gets really itchy when she is tired. She had severe eczema over much of her body for a long time. It has significantly improved since she was a babe (mostly her ankles and random other spots now).

We spent a great amount of time during her first year of life visiting the doctor, the ped, the allergist, the dermatologist, getting blood work and a variety of tests. Needless to say she has not been the greatest sleeper. She is often itchy at night and wakes fussing and unable to get back to sleep (without nursing), but even that is improving.

Sleep has been an off and on issue in our house. We have never had a decent bedtime routine that we have been able to keep consistently. I am a night owl and need time to myself to sort out my brain before I go to bed. Thankfully, right now we don’t have any early risers.

The reason I shared about our bedtime routine was because inside I felt like it was a small victory. We finally had something that I had always wanted for our house. Something is still missing though, I want to have a more involved bedtime for the bigger boys, but I am not sure exactly how to make that happen. I need to put the big boys to bed around the same time as the twins because if I don’t the twins get woken up.

After the last post I felt great that I had this new found bedtime routine with the twins, but I also felt a wee bit sad that the big boys were excluded from that. They probably wouldn’t enjoy that routine, but I am sure they would enjoy some kind of routine with us. I am thinking about this and will let you know if I come up with something that works for our family.

I made this list of things to do in the morning a couple of years ago when the kids were a bit younger. It helped some at the time.

Ideas are welcome if you have any. How does sleep happen (or not happen) at your house?

Sleep Of The Mama

This was written some night last week. No, I don’t remember the date, but I could check the email I sent myself from the iPad if you really want to know.

On with the story…

With my head on my pillow and my eyes closed tight, I try desperately to find sleep. On one side of me is my snoring husband enjoying his slumber and on the other is Zion, whimpering and whining because his cough is making him feel yucky. Hosanna is sandwiched between my husband and I, sprawled all over the bed, and her one desire is to have more nummies, but we are trying hard to wean. I try to redirect her back to sleep and it actually works.

My eyes are closed, but my head is full of thoughts. Lists of things to do tomorrow dance in my head. I suppose that I could count the lists instead of sheep? It is my own fault hat I am wide awake. I fell asleep for three hours while nursing the twins to sleep. I was so tired that I totally crashed and now sleep is alluding me.

Tired of trying to sleep, I crept quietly out of the room to find some place uninhabited by sleeping children and typed this on the iPad. The iPad is surprisingly quiet to type with, thankfully. As I found my secret night writing spot, I was greeted by Tizzie needing some late night tummy scratching. I give the kitty some needed attention and she moves on as usual.

Now that this post is out of my head, maybe I will find sleep? (Actually, I went on to draft 6 more posts). How is sleep at your house these days?

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